He wanted our kids exposed to Christianity for intellectual reasons and likes the community.
I know, I know, this is the last thing you want to hear.
Maybe things would be have different if I had been older or if I had not been so fragile. There is a difference between "I wouldn't want to be with someone who worked these hours forever" and "I am really unhappy and will be unhappy for the next three years. I mostly attribute this to lack of sleep, but I also think he is treated better as a fellow -- by everyone.